3 Simple Ways to Deal with Criticism
Criticism hurts. In fact, to the brain, verbal and emotional hurts register the same amount of pain as the physical equivalent. In the brain, a harsh criticism feels the same getting slapped. That's why it's really important to address criticism with a different attitude so the emotional pain doesn't run too deep.
Let people talk. It’s important to hear them out first. By really listening, you will be able to evaluate what the criticism is really about. Make note of the words used. It’s important to listen before replying — we don’t want to worsen the situation by misunderstanding the intention behind it. ou can only REALLY hear the motiviation by the message if you listen non-defensively.
By listening you can better identify if the criticism is constructive or destructive. Are you being put down or are you learning to do things better?
Criticism has its benefits. Non-defensive listening can help you evaluate the to find the benefits.
Breathe in. Breathe out. Stay calm and whatever you do, don’t lash back with anger and bitterness. Remaining calm and composed isn’t an act of submission. It means you are not letting your emotions take charge. Lashing back can be distguised as blaming others, accepting your flaws and apologizing graciously when you're wrong.
Respond with grace: Take responsibility for your actions. Don't blame others and apologize if you're wrong.